Side effects of dating
In addition, scammers sometimes seek to steal the identities of other people either from dating sites or social networking sites and then use these stolen identities for the purposes of cultivating relationships with their victims.Clues that you may be being scammed There are several possible signs that you may be talking to a scammer on a dating site.Firstly, you may receive a response to a message you have sent very quickly (maybe with fifteen minutes).Secondly, there may be a change in the tone, language, style or grammar used in the reply you receive.Psychological techniques used by the scammers One of the devious psychological compliance techniques employed by scammers is referred to as the ‘foot in the door’ tactic (Freedman & Fraser, 1966).The foot in the door technique works by asking someone to comply firstly with a small request before eventually asking them to agree to a larger one.Types of scams The sob stories relayed by the scammers typically involve requests for money, pleading desperate circumstances, such as unexpected hospital expenses resulting from sudden accidents or illnesses, or some other kind of emergency.
If they believe they love and care for their online romantic partner (really the scammer), then they should give or loan them money in times of emergency, and doing this prevents the victim experiencing dissonant thoughts.
So are there certain people who are more likely to fall victim to scams, or certain situations which are likely to precipitate dating scams?
Guadagno & Cialdini (2007) found that there are individual differences in the likelihood that people will succumb to online persuasion, and this is further complicated by the extent to which people feel empathy with the person trying to persuade them.
The foot in the door tactic predicts that we may be more likely to comply to the request for the larger amount of money only after we have agreed to sending the smaller amount first.
A further psychological technique employed by the scammer’s is explained by cognitive dissonance theory (Festinger & Carlsmith, 1959).